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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

A Young Lady

1. My father and his mother had a falling out many years ago. He never takes us to visit her and when we ask him to, he makes lame excuses not to take us. What he doesn't know is that now that I can drive to school, I visit grandma about once a week and help her clean her house. I love the stories she tells, especially about dad when he was a bratty little kid. LOL
2. I give change to homeless people when I have it. When I'm with my friends, they will make snide comments about how gross or lazy the people are, often when the person can still hear them. I don't care what they say, I believe these people had good lives once, and just had a really long run of bad luck.
3. I'm not close to any of my "friends". They are all so obsessed with petty things, like hair, makeup, clothes, or the cars we drive. They don't know how stupid I think their conversations are. What I find truly sad is that adults only care about the same things, as evidenced by E!, the attention garnered by the Tiger Woods scandal, and our constant obsession with rich people behaving badly. Does anyone care about anything of substance? Why does Tiger Woods get more coverage than the tent cities in Haiti?
4. I try to behave well because I feel very guilty when I don't.  Once, when I was in Jr High, my friends were all picking on this girl that was a year younger than us. She had bad acne but mostly it was just that she was a little overweight.  She wasn't really that heavy, just a little bigger than us.  I called her fat. That's all but to this day I think about it pretty often and I feel so bad. She changed schools so I never even got the chance to say I am sorry.
5. I read this site a lot. It seems to me most of the posters that have a secret about cheating are unhappy. I am going to try to use this as a lesson never to cheat on anyone. It seems like something so simple, but it's obviously something most people struggle with.  That is one struggle I just don't want.

4 comments:

  1. "Does anyone care about anything of substance?"
    I do!

    It's not just the cheaters who are unhappy. I'm pretty sure the people obsessed with celebrity and 'things' aren't all that happy because, at the end of the day, those things are hollow.

    You have a good head on your shoulders and a good heart. I wish I knew you. :)

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  2. :) You do know me. Or, at least, five small parts of me. Thank you for the compliments.

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  3. Good point, but I think you know what I meant. ;) The world needs more people like you, though.

    And as for the girl that got picked on: you can always hope that she reads this. :)

    Your confession about picking on that girl reminded me of something:
    I was picked on for the opposite reason as the girl you knew: people thought I was too skinny and called me anorexic. One day I overheard them talking about me and someone I barely knew stood up for me. She never realized how much that meant to me until I got in contact with her after high school specifically to thank her. It was strange, because she told me she had contacted people she had gotten into fights with and bullied back then to apologize to them. So, not everyone is perfect. We don't always make the right choices, but sometimes we do...and it means the world to someone.

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  4. You know, I've read about a study that states female friends and family members tend to disparage those they care about as motivated by jealousy. This is exhibited when commenting that one is too skinny, too stubborn, or too smart for her own good, among other things. We trend towards back-handed compliments completely oblivious to our motives or the harm we cause to those we hold so dear. Careful consideration should more often be extended to our communication. Bravo, little Lady and Ms. Mindscape.

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