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Monday, March 21, 2011

Cheater squared

1. My boyfriend of a few months cheated on me about 3 months ago. He said he was really drunk and nothing (to my knowledge has happened since).

2. I forgave him but I cannot forget, it is basically haunting me, but if I ever bring up my insecurity he gets mad that I can't leave it alone.

3. I myself am a cheater too, I cheated on my husband for my boyfriend, so I'm not sure why I'm so bothered by his cheating on me.

4. I plan to have another child with my husband soon, luckily my boyfriend won't be in the picture. My job is having me move to where my husband is stationed and I still want to try to make it work with him.

5. I love my boyfriend, but I feel like he is shady and I don't know how to confront him about my insecurities in our relationship.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks K.

Gender: female
Sexual Orientation: straight

[Sounds like it's sort of a moot point -- if you're moving away from your boyfriend soon, why worry about him cheating on you retroactively? Enjoy what time you have left with him.

I'm not sure if I should really say anything else, but it did occur to me in reading this post that it seems like a bad idea to bring another child into your marriage. I am probably biased because I have always felt that if I were to feel the need to cheat in a monogamous relationship, I should probably end it. It's only happened to me once, when I was engaged. I only kissed the guy a couple of times one evening, but I ended my engagement three days later, before doing anything else, and I have never regretted it. It just seems to me that if you're willing to actually follow through on cheating (especially if you know your partner would likely leave you should they find out), you've already given up on the relationship whether you admit it to yourself or not. No judgment, just my two cents. Do with it what you will.
K]


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