Bad feelings are better than no feelings

1. i still have hard sexual feelings toward my ex girlfriend

2. my girlfriend i have now i seem to have lost interest in, shes a beautiful woman hot body and truely smart but we’ve started to loose attraction for each other even though were still dating.

3. my ex girlfriend was my current girlfriends best friend, until i came into the picture, i dumped my ex just for her.

4. I fantasize about fuckin every hot chick i see as well as my ex, we always did something that pleased us both, now i dont even get that. Im in a sexless relationship and i really dont know why.

5. Sometimes i wish i had no feelings for women at all .

Ps: kay i wanted to get a experts advice on my situation and that is, me and my girlfriend are loosing our attraction in each other, we hardly kiss each other anymore, im the only guy she has that ever treated her like a queen and took great care of her in every situation but were in a sexless r/s that feels like its goin down the tubes and i just wanted to get some advice on what i should do. Ever since she found out mank account balance she wants to be with me more(go figure) but we dont do anything anymore we dont even tell each other we love each other and when i see other people in their relationships hugging and cuddling with each other, it makes me sad deep down that i dont have what they do. Kay what do you think i should do:/

Gender: male
Sexual Orientation: straight

Admin here --

First, I'm not an expert. I just read a lot of secrets.

All you can do when you have a problem in a relationship is try to understand on a fundamental level what is bothering you and then address that. Usually it comes down to some kind of fear -- but figuring out what that is can be VERY hard regardless of how much you try to work it out. Try talking to her about your problems and you might be surprised what she says. If that doesn't work try going to couples counseling. If that doesn't work, I don't know what else to tell you. Both of you have to be willing to do what it takes to make it work and if that's not the case there probably isn't anything you can do besides move on and try to find someone you CAN make it work with.

Good luck.

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Best of both worlds

1. I sexually molested my pet dog

2. I have an attraction to animals/really hairy women

3. I like to put my penis in womens arm pits

4. My wife is actually a transexual (Best of both worlds)

5. I like to dress up in lingere and take pictures.

I really dont know what to do about this. I think I'm really wierd. So if you could please comment and give me some advice, It would be much appriciated.

Gender: male
Sexual Orientation: other

Admin here -

Why do you need to do anything about it? Other than molesting your dog I don't see anything wrong with any of this. If you've read this site much you probably know that even that isn't all that uncommon and I'm not judging, but the lack of ability to give consent makes that a questionable decision. As for the rest, hairy women need love too, some chicks probably dig having a dick in their armpit (there is an infinite variety of human desires -- no matter what you're into there is probably someone else out there who is into the same thing), there are a lot of guys who would kill to have a transgendered wife as there are many people who can't or don't feel any need to make a decision between genders, and if you like dressing up as a chick go for it.

If you're not okay with this stuff, that is really the only problem, and all I can suggest you do about that is seek out some form of support or counseling. Support groups (online or IRL) could help you deal with the shame you feel as a result of these urges if that is what you want. If it's more important to you to understand them or eliminate them, find a therapist and go regularly. It is absolutely shocking the things you can change in your life with the help of a good therapist. If the first one you try doesn't seem to be helping, keep looking until you find a good one.

Good luck.

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Is it okay if he never chooses?

1. I'm deeply in love with a married man... I'm 34 and at this point I am able to say I've found the man of my life. He's 41 and has a 16 years old daughter. Family seems to be a great value to him. When he met his wife 20 years ago, she's already had a baby. She's a bit older than him. It's now years they sleep in seperate bedrooms.

2. The way we met : we take each day the same train. Everyday for months we've been somehow looking for each other in this train. We needed to have each other at sight as often as possible for these 40 mins long fares. One day, he used the courage I was missing to ask me for a coffee. I thought I was dreaming... of course I couldn't do anything but accept the offer.

We met end of July this year. He's someone who has deep problems with lying. So after a 3 weeks long relationship with me, his wife, who found him acting strange and being very distracted at home, made him confess her he had an extra marriage relationship. He was devastated. I was too.

3. One week had passed when his wife finally asked him to make a choice between her and me (during a nearly full week, he left her in doubts). It then took him 2 full days to tell her he'd chosen her over me. Of course I understood why, but I thought I'd die from the breaking up.

4. In the next days, we've decided to remain friends. As we still had to travel together, we thought that was the best thing to do. We Knew we couldn't just ignore each other in the train and friendship seemed to be the only thing left to us...

But then, not even a week later, we were making love in a bed.

5. Since this marvelous time, we've met again and again... We've spent 3 days together in Southern France. Now, I don't know what to think anymore. He says he can't choose now and needs time. I say I can't live without him... what would you say?!

Gender: female
Sexual Orientation: straight

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No more Mr. Nice Guy

1. When I was in college, one of my roomies had an OCD. He used to obsess over things like whether he'd turned the stove off or locked the door to our shared house. He'd walk to the street then come back and rattle the front door handle like 20 times to check it was locked before he'd leave for good. I used to unlock it after he'd checked it a dozen or so times, he never realised.

2. My friend has asthma. I told him I'd stuck his inhaler up my butt when he was wheezing and really needed it. He doesn't know that I didn't really do it. It was five years ago, but I still ask him what my ass tastes like.

3. My old employer got bought out and a whole bunch of us got canned for no good reason. Over 6 years I'd worked thousands of unpaid hours in overtime for that company. I was so pissed I printed out a list of their customers, and the prices they were paying and then mailed the whole lot to their biggest competitor anonymously. Score one for the little guys.

4. The first time I had sex was when I was 17. I was so nervous I couldn't get it up. It still bothers me, even through there have never been any similar performance issues since.

5. I had sex with my neighbour's wife who is 20 years older than me but she's still thin with a good body. She was absolutely hammered at the time. One advantage of older women being a little looser is that you can last a really long time. I'll do it again if she's up for it.

Gender: male
Sexual Orientation: straight

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Because they are horny thoughts?

I've started smoking again. She doesn't know.

I started watching porn again and masturbating too. I have a high sex drive and don't get enough "attention".

My ex was so much freekier in bed. She did everything. I miss that sometimes. She reads five-secrets and I kinda hope she sees this.

She understood me and never judged me. I can't trust anyone like that. She knows my secrets about my gay experience. She did things in bed that were "different" and enjoyed it. She even did it without me asking for it.

I've never experienced sex with a guy. I had a suck buddy in highschool. I want to get fucked by a man though. I had the strap-on with my ex and that was great. But I want a man to fuck me until he cums in my mouth and on my face. The funny thing is when I'm not horny, I don't have any of these thoughts. Wonder why that is.

+++I just want to thank you for keeping my secret. Even though we didn't work out, I still have fond memories of you.

Gender: male
Sexual Orientation: bisexual

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Words fail

5. I hate myself, my mom is my hero & the strongest person Ive ever met. I wish like hell I had half her strength and selflessness.

4. I look at my sons and wish they understood how sick I am. Or that they were old enough to see that despite how much funner he is, their dad did me VERY wrong. And hasn't really made any true attempt to make it up or make it better. Just expecting Ill forget everything, and keep letting him get away with it.

3. He told me Im too scared to follow through when i said I wanted to die. Truth is, my love for my mom & sons is the only reason Im here now that someone has stolen my husband away . He & his 19yr old girlfriend agreed my boys are better off without me, so why would i bother?

2. I love far too much. Existing like this hurts so much and I cry every time Im alone.I invest too much of me in others to an almost inhuman extent, break my back trying to be there for everyone around me. But now that I have cancer and is progressing so quickly. I look around and all the people I thought would always be there to have abandoned me or don't know how to treat me now... my mom is the only one who seems to really care if i let this beat me...

1. IM in far too much pain to continue like this. I throw up blood numerous times a day I poo blood frequently. There is blood every time I urinate now. I'm being ripped apart from the inside out but i put on a brave face for the people around me. That I can protect him. But when I look into their eyes... Especially my husbands I wonder why no one cares about protecting me? why no one loves me enough to fall apart like i would if it were them... The worst part of cancer isn't knowing I'm going to die and it's not how much pain I have to live with or watching myself waste away... The worst part about cancer is that it has been such an eye-opener it has shown me how little I am worth to all the people in this world that I love and would die for.

Gender: female
Sexual Orientation: straight

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Big brother bafflement

1) I fantasies about my boyfriend's older brother. I think about "what if he likes me back and kisses me or fucks me" he has a toddler that adores me. His kid favors me in the hole world. I always fantasize that his kid wants me as his mother and we live happily ever after. My boyfriends brother is divorced and he is extremely sexy. He has had 4 or 5 girlfriends after his failed marriage. He looks at me when he thinks no one has notices but I notice. He has called other people my name, what does that mean? His kid has called me mom acouple of times. He us a difficult person to deal with but I know I can help him.

2) I had a family member (cousin) touch me. I liked it. I was just a kid. I think because of this, it made me fantasizes about girls. I would love to lick a pussy and watch her reactions but keep it a secret. I think I'm bi-sexual. I would never tell a soul because everyone thinks I'm way to perfect but I'm not. I would love to fuck a random sexy man or my professor.

3) in class I would fantasize about my professor fucking me in his office. I'd wear a skirt without any panties and I bend over so he could see my wet pussy and he would finer me. I dont think im passing his class. It's so hard to cofuse. He's an ex military soldier and just knowing that is so fucking sexy. I'd let him fuck me anywhere and anytime.

4) I love to masterbate. I've probably done it 6 times already today. I'm forsure going to fibger myself right after this 5 secrets. I love watching porn or hentai it makes me super wet. More then my boyfriend. I love his hard cock but it doesn't make me super wet.

5) I'd love to findout if my boyfriend's brother likes me. I don't think I could do anything because it's already been done/played.

To admin:

I don't think your into this job anymore. Why? You use up put so much soul and terrific ideas.

Gender: female
Sexual Orientation: bisexual
Admin here --
You're right, I'm not really into it anymore. I started this website during a phase in my life when all I wanted was for someone else to help me. I was incredibly depressed, felt helpless to better my situation, and didn't have many (any?) friends. Since then a lot of things in my life have changed. I went to counseling. I went back to school. I have many close friends. I'm not depressed anymore. Now that things are different for me I realize that there really isn't much I can do to help people unless they are already ready to help themselves. Beyond that, I'm a lot busier now (particularly because of school) and just don't have much time to spend on the site. The main reason I still update it occasionally is that I put so much work and time into it during the first year that I feel it would be a shame to just shut it down, but I don't really know what I DO want to do with it yet.
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